You want to be burning calories after you work out. The problem becomes for most people - its not pleasant, its painful. You have to have the pain tolerance to be able to deal with that, which a lot of people do not.
If you think of exercise as a 60-minute commitment 3 times a week at the gym, you're missing the point completely. If you think that going on a diet has something to do with nutrition, you don't see the forest through the trees. It is a lifestyle. I know it sounds cliche, but you have to find things you love to do.
You need to put what you learn into practice and do it over and over again until it's a habit. I always say, 'Seeing is not believing. Doing is believing.' There is a lot to learn about fitness, nutrition and emotions, but once you do, you can master them instead of them mastering you.
If I could give one tip for people, it's not an exercise tip or a nutrition regimen. It's to WALK YOUR TALK and BELIEVE in YOURSELF, because at the end of the day the dumbbell and diet don't get you in shape. It's your accountability to your word.